Sunday night Daisy and I participated on a dating panel where high schoolers were allowed to ask whatever question they wanted on dating. Here are some highlights from the panel:
High School Dating Goals: 1) get someone hot 2) get intimate 3) dont be controlled
All of the above goals were dumb.
I got asked the question, "is dating is a sin?"
I do not believe that dating is sinful, I view dating in a similar light as I view fast-food restaurants--it's not wrong to eat there, but something far better is available. There is a better way of romance, a way that might spare many heartaches and regrets. Dating (1) leads to intimacy but not to commitment; (2) skips the "friendship" stage of a relationship; (3) mistakes a physical relationship for love; (4) sometimes distracts from the responsibility of preparing for the future; and (5) creates an artificial environment for evaluating another person's character.
"So how should we date," said one student.
To begin with, we must stop abusing the word love. Our meaning is far below God's, yet it is His blessing we want and his best we pursue. Understanding what God calls love is our first step.
- If a young man (or young lady) is not prepared to seriously consider a lifelong commitment, he is better off to avoid monopolizing another person's affections and isolating himself from other valuable friendships.
- Finding the right life partner is a matter of working to become the right life partner, trusting God to cover the "who" and "when" issues.
- IT'S POSSIBLE TO KNOW ALL THE RULES AND STILL NOT KNOW GOD AND FAIL. Your relationship with Christ always will and should be the most important relationship you have.
Thank you to Fusion Students and the leadership who make learning fun!